I knoooow. It makes me want to write totally non-sexual torture scenes. And I hate torture scenes! (I actually never read The Last Herald, mainly because I, uh, read her other stuff! And there were homophobic parents kicking their kids out of the house all over the place and I didn't really need that.)

It is kind of weird. I think the guidelines kind of encourage the confusion? There's a conflation of queer experience and queer issues. Which are kind of the same thing? But then you have the problem where queer experiences are defined by the world as large as consisting entirely of those issues - queer people existing only when straight people see them.

:/ It is so complicated and tangled.