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I write a lot of stories with a lot of nonsexual coercion in them or at the back of them. Violations of autonomy, massive amounts of leveraged social pressure, all kinds of creepy stuff that isn't - about sex. (It might, sometimes, in a twisted up kind of way be about romance.)

And this always leaves me floundering around wondering how to properly tag. I usually come to some kind of conclusion, but I don't think I've really liked any of them. It kind of gets worse every time I post to Ao3 because like - there's the archive standard warnings, and often what's going on is essentially not consensual at all, but there's no sex in the story, nor anything approaching it, this isn't about sexual violence and "non-con" in fandom parlance means just that. But - I feel weird about that. I mean, you can just mention - - - something. in the other tags field, and I do, but I always feel strange in general about the whole thing.

Does anyone else have this problem? How do you handle it?